no suet, you didn’t fail as a friend. on the contrary, you went out there and looked for something, anything to help him.

i can understand the frustration because there isn’t anything concrete you can do to make them feel better. but believe me, just being there is the greatest help.

when i lost someone, all i remember is my friend saying: i don’t know what to say, but i just want you to know i am here.

sigh. you did all you could suet. your friend will look back and know he was loved and supported in his time of grief.

my little advice for you is probably to not repeat the same mistake again. never wait until the person is lost to appreciate him / her. never think there is always tomoro, there is always time, never. and the best way to cope with loss is prob to just be there with him, even if it’s helping him with house chores or asking him to yamcha / play basketball, just do stuff together and make sure he’s not alone in the house doing nothing. if he brings up the subject and seems like he wants to talk about the incident or the past, just listen and maybe sometimes if its possible point out some funny parts and laugh about it together. it may sometimes be forced, but i think ultimately it does make a difference good luck

the password is in this post.

just be there for him. be a listener. I’m sure he’s sick of people telling him the same old thing every day — things will be alright, time will heal everything. talk about anything but that. he’ll appreciate it, like how I appreciated my friends when they did that.

and don’t blame yourself for not being a good friend. the fact that you felt that you weren’t being one shows otherwise

Hey suet. I get wht you mean girl.

I hate it when something like this happens, and i get this sense of helplessness. knowing tht whtever i do will not make things better. but i realised that sometimes it does. you’re there with him, that’s wht matters and tht’s wht will make a difference.

i wished to be by my cousin’s side but i was so afraid that i would break down. i did not know what to do or what to say to make him feel better =(

me too was hurting inside because of the sudden death of my uncle. besides listening to him and asking him ‘how r u’ and stuff like that, i really do not know what to do

but i guess human will grow and learn by themselves. sometimes you just gotta let him get out of this on his own. All you need to do is let him know that you care. he would b able to feel it

don’t break down! Gambateh!!

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since a couple of yrs back when i know i definitely will study abroad, i keep thinking bout my parents. the main q was what if they leave me alone? i know everyone will “go” one day but i seriously cant imagine how will i pull my life back together.

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i know there’s nth anyone of us can say to make u feel better.
this stuff hurts =( but rmbr to put a smile on that face of urs =)

moral of the story is, friends and loved ones can only guide them, make sure they dont fall n stuffs. but time heals, just be there for them. after some time, might not be in too soon, they’ll eventually get better. all u have to do is be there.

the end. hope that helped

I just knew because she told me on msn messager – I didn’t know what to say to her. I was at shock mode.

They all booked a ticket to travel to Norway included her mother before she passed away by a heart attack couple of weeks laters or so.

*sigh* … :’(

as much as cruel the reality is,things happen for a reason.

be there for him.be a good listener.heck,gv a shoulder for him to cry.

n the most important thing is,be a suet li,coz im sure dats wut ur best fren needs rite now.

smile.