January 19th, 2009
Surviving the distance
It’s 3.33 am now and I have so much on my mind. I hate sleeping. I never thought I’d say this but I really hate it when it’s time to sleep. I wish and pray that I can just lie on my bed and fast forward 9 hours later when it’s time to wake up.
I think the main reason why I developed this sudden abhorrence for sleep is cause I’ve been insomniac for so long. Everytime I lie on the bed, I need around 30 mins to 1 hour to fall asleep and I dread going to sleep so much because of this!
I can’t believe I actually hate sleeping. Who in the world hates sleep?! I’m going out of my mind. I’m not going to sleep tonight.
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It’s 4.44 am. I NEED to sleep. But I can’t and I refuse to. Sleep is for the weak.
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SUPER LONG POST AHEAD.
I think I’ll talk about how it’s like being in a long distance relationship. I’ll talk ALLLL about it. All the details, all the obstacles, how we deal with them, how we fail sometimes, how much pain we get from doing this etc etc I’m going to talk until noone cares about it anymore and then I’m going to continue talking somemore until it’s 10am in the morning so I don’t have to sleep.
We’d been together for about a year before we tasted our first bitter taste of being in a LDR. I had to go South Africa for a month for a youth exchange program and frankly, it was hell for us. Because I had to travel so much, I couldn’t call him at all and he obviously couldn’t do anything as well. In that whole month, we only got to talk about twice or so.
8 months later, he had to go to the states and thus began our first actual experience of being in a LDR.
It was..worse than hell I’d say. There was a 12 hour time difference and whenever he was awake, I was asleep and vice versa. I don’t think I’d ever cried so much in my life before. Everytime when we finally got to talk, I was always upset at something. Upset at him cause we were supposed to talk at 10 but he came online much later, upset cause I had so much to tell him but he didn’t have time to listen, upset cause I missed him so much, upset at the world.
But I think after that, I finally learned that there was no point being upset cause it was only going to make things worse. Being mad and crying so much means we couldn’t talk properly all the time. I was on the verge of giving up so many times that I couldn’t even keep count how many times I told him I wanted to take a break anymore. But if there’s one thing I really admire about him, it’s his patience. He NEVER gave up.
Everytime I was difficult, he held on to me harder instead. Everytime I threw bitchfits, he pulled me closer. He told me that breaking up isn’t going to solve our problems. A broken vase will never be the same again despite your efforts of glueing the pieces back together.
I guess with all his patience and with my perseverance of trying to make this work, we made it through the first year. He trusted me a lot so I had my freedom to go out with my friends often. Truth is, I never really trusted him enough then but I just pretended I did so I wouldn’t upset him. I think the main things that made things work were patience, lots of trust, lots and lots of communication (i think we tried to talk at least once a day), loyalty of course and err..love wtf so corny.
The one and only good thing about LDRs is the moment when we meet again after a long time apart. I wouldn’t say that all the sweat and tears and anger is worth it but it’s almost worth it. It was really awkward when I saw him for the first time in the airport. Hugging him felt weird..holding his hand felt even weirder and omg the first kiss was..super awkward? But after a few minutes, things went back to normal again and I think we didn’t even fight at all for the first few weeks cause we wanted to treasure each other so much.
We had this SUPER big fight when he came back this time cause he kinda..forgot how to treat a girl anymore. Hahaha sounds funny but I guess he wasn’t used to having me by his side so he forgot how sensitive I am. The fight lasted for about 3 days I think but he wrote me this super long romantic email after that and we made up. Lesson learnt, never take your gf for granted ever again.
And for me, I’ve learnt that I can’t expect him to be completely the same as before he left. I’ve learnt to accommodate, and learnt to give and take sometimes .
In 2007, we both left for the states together and started our 3rd year of being together and 2nd year of being in a LDR. It was a lot better this time cause we were in the same country, hence no time difference at all. However, ALL the same rules of being in a LDR still apply cause we were still physically apart most of the time. Things were better than in 2006 cause we talked online all the time and I can easily contact him etc
In 2008, we got a phone plan together so we could talk on the phone allllll the time. Advice for couple who’re doing ldr in the same country: get a phone plan! seriously it helps soooo much. When we were using prepaid, we couldn’t talk much cause it was expensive and we had to keep looking at the time. With unlimited talktime, I think we hardly fought at all!
Alas, now he’s in Germany for this semester so it’s back to the same ol’ time difference thing again which I hate so much.
To be honest, we just had this fight this morning. What happened was he went to this concert and it was late and he still wasn’t back. I was worried so I bought a calling card to call him but it didn’t work and when it did he didn’t pick up for some time! I was so crazily upset that when I unplugged the blowdryer out, I electrocuted myself.
T____________T my fingers got stuck in between the metal prongs and I almost died ok T_______T
Ok fine almost dying is an exaggeration but it was really painful..
So anyway haiya very complicated story but we just made up again.
Everytime we fight, there is always a lesson to be learnt, always more room for improvement, always testing our perseverance. I think it really depends on whether you’re willing to devote all that time and energy to make things work and if you are, I’m sure you can survive being in a LDR too.
Frankly if you ask me if this is hard, yeah fucking hell yeah it’s the hardest thing I’ll ever have to do. LDR to me is always about fighting and making up and fighting and making up and repeat cycle. But if I have to do this for a few more years before I get an entire lifetime with someone I want to be with forever, I’d sign up to do it again and again.
So before you decide to go on a LDR with someone, you have to decide if that person is someone you can see yourself with next time. If the answer is yes, you CAN do it I’m sure. Don’t ever let ldr get in the way cause it’s not worth losing something as important as that.
Just throw in some patience, perseverance, trust, try to talk everyday and tell each other how your day has been (this gets tedious after some time. everyday it’s just “baby what did you do today” blabla but at least I know what’s going on in his life),and you MUST talk things out if you feel upset about something. I think those are the secrets to a successful LDR! oh oh and all hail SKYPE and MSN!
Hahahha you know what will be funny? If I write this and then we break up the next day WTF CHOI TAI KA LAI SI *touches wood
Maybe I should publish a book wtf “Tips to surviving a long distance relationship” wtf or “Pocket guide on LDRs” or “LDR for dummies” hahahaha
Don’t get me wrong, despite years of doing this, I’m still very bad at it. I still question myself why am I putting myself in so much trouble, I still cry a lot when I get frustrated, we still fight, and I still blog about how close to giving up I am. I guess no one can be truly good at this, it’s just a matter of how we hold on against all odds and to never give up.
I’m dedicating all these successful years of being in a LDR to my wonderful boyfriend. Although he still is such an ass sometimes, still so stupid and insensitive and cause me so much tears, but you have to give him credit for never giving up. I think all guys should learn from him. (eh and of course i play a part also la ok don’t puji him only wtf)
The end.
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yay im the first to comment why ur title is LDR long distance relationship wtf are u talkin abt us /shy
last time i used to think zzz is a waste of time =.=
after i discover da wonder of zzz-ing, hohoho
i can zzz practically anywhere anytime…
for your case, maybe fresh milk helps?
thank you darl T_T i dedicate this epic win to my loving gf, because no matter how much effort i put into this, it wouldn’t have worked without her playing a part in this crazy soap opera too.
eh yalah you should put this on digg or something. i let my friend pedro read ok ah? wtf
up next! Suet 101: A Full-credit Course in Dating a Suet
Hey Suet, nicely written. Bless the both of you from the bottom of my heart. I feel for you. Although it is hard, but it is possible especially in nowadays world. Think about the years will be spent together in the future, facing him everyday.
Barry is showing his patience for you, meaning how much he loves you. It is a very lucky thing to be even in love with the person you want to be.
I can understand you completely. My fiance can be extremely patient w me, I’m the inpatient one -_-. He used to spend 1000 dollars each month calling me when he didnt have time to buy calling cards. He’s so busy making money for our future but I keep spending his money T_T.
Believe it or not, it’s only 2 years, and the money he spent on me can ody buy 2 houses and a car in Australia coz of the the vacations and paying up my bond soon, feel bad T_T
eh u know what when i used to be in a LDR i put up all this pretense of giving the other party ’space’ like take as much you want it’s free =_______= when in fact i’m insecure and hypersensitive, basically emotionally incapable of this idea of ’space’ what happens is that we managed to build a wall between us i shoulda known of bazsuet earlier lol
i feel for you, suet li! i haven’t seen my bf since july last year. but i guess i will if i’m going to sunburst kl music festival this march. u and barry is the sweetest couple ever!
Well, i will pray for the both of you.
Don’t forget to KEEP MOVING FORWARD.
i will be apart from my boy for the next 7 months, starting from this friday sigh =’(
Don’t worry~
Barry and you will be perfectly fine.
you two are destined to be together and celebrate N times anniversary in the coming N years.
N equal to infinity, until you two poor skin become kedut kedut and walking also gigil but still stick together as lovely couple in the world.
=_____=”
awwww been in LDR when I first started with my bf. not very far though, Seremban and KL ==” but still, the trust part really tough. like you, I had mentioned countless times of breaking up. Anyhoo, thank god that you and me still hanging on with our men hahahahahahaha! or I should say the guys should thank god cause they have us? HAHAHA!
don’t give up. i know how it feels being in LDR… i gave up mine and i still feel lost about it.
he migrated to the States, i’m stuck in Msia.. distance DID tore us apart. sigh.. i wish things were different..
i hate sleeping too! i think it’s a waste of time. imagine the time we have if we don’t have to sleep haha. but we’ll grow old faster if we don’t get enough sleep. imagine looking like a zombie wtf.
as for ldr, i tend to look at the bright side instead of thinking about those sufferings. missing someone could be fun =P
I cannot believe that I read the whole post. It was damn long.
Kudos to you and Barry for making it this long. I don’t think that I could ever do it because:
1. I get bored easily.
2. I hate the shock of when people change and then I start distancing myself from them.
Cheers
Don’t give up then, if u r sure he is the one… Both of you hve been putting so much effort to make this r/s works, Suet Li, don’t give up….
i feel what u feel. kudos!
my bf broke up with me after coming back from overseas. it was the most painful thing ever. i felt like all the effort we put in was down the drain.
im glad that u both are strong enough to go through this. all the best to u.
First of all, well done for this fantastic post.
I will be graduating in a year and a half time.
Meaning that, by that time my girlfriend and I will be in our 4th year together. We were never apart all these years and sad to say we will be apart right after I graduate.
I do not know how long we will be having this whole LDR kind of thing. I want to go back and she wants to stay.
You are right by saying that “So before you decide to go on a LDR with someone, you have to decide if that person is someone you can see yourself with next time. If the answer is yes, you CAN do it I’m sure”
What you have wrote about your relationship resemble so much about my relationship too.
I am glad that both of you have done it so brilliantly.
The thing about relationship is, if both of us have one same ultimate goal in the end, I am sure things will work out no matter how hard. If it’s the other way round, I don’t think things will work out.
Good luck and I am sure both of you can handle all the obstacles along the way.
Take care and all the best, Suet Li
Oh yeah, I agree with this very much too. QUOTE: ” And for me, I’ve learnt that I can’t expect him to be completely the same as before he left. I’ve learnt to accommodate, and learnt to give and take sometimes “
i got so depressed reading this halfway through. ahha. eh so good la you guys get to fly all over..
if only people really understood true love like this! =)
you can make it! baz is sweet..so r u!
Dunno, but I feel that everyone who are in LDR are going through the same thing. So do I lol xD
Ganbarimashou 6^.^9
yes, all hail msn n skype!!1 and i see calvin posted a comment too =P
i also need to lay on my bed for at least 30 mins…sometimes 1 or 2 hours…haha..
hey suet..
u look very familiar…were u from srk sri subang jaya..the one in front the big longkang?…bahaha..cuz there’s like two schools with the same name if im nt mistaken…ohya..ur LDR post..super sweet…..:)..n ur blog is super cool..u n ur bf..seriously wei “MFEO”…Godbless u both.
Salut Suet, beautifully written piece on long-distance relationships. They seem to have become commonplace in this globalised society, but just because it’s increased in frequency doesn’t mean it’s any easier to live with every day. Thank you for highlighting that fact and giving all of us in LDRs a voice
that’s very true wat u wrote bout LDR…
i was in a LDR for almost 5 years..
It wasn’t easy at all…sometimes i feel that it doesn’t make any difference having one and not having one..coz we are so far apart anyway..
and it’s even worse when i see my frens with their other halves
But I tend to be stronger when we are apart..i do things myself and go places myself..when i am back with him..i am the lembik gf..hahhaha..
Hang on girl..at the end of the day..it’s all worth it..
U both are a real sweet couple
Hi there. I browse your blog from time to time.
And this is my first time leaving a comment
I thought i’m the only one that will feel weird/awkward seeing my bf after a few days apart. But after reading this..
[[It was really awkward when I saw him for the first time in the airport. Hugging him felt weird..holding his hand felt even weirder and omg the first kiss was..super awkward? But after a few minutes, things went back to normal again...]]
I know that i’m 100% normal. Haha..
All the best to you and your bf
angie, haha nola!
annant, haha it doesnt..i tried =(
baz, hahah aww yeah tht’s my next post! hahah my fren frm mhc also just read this post and liked it!
fish, thanks! yeah im so lucky =)
nat, wahh so much?!?!?! tht’s crazy hahaha
ap, hahaha actually i dont get wht u’re saying wtf
amber, ya u should go! and thanks =D
jo, thanks!
linsey, 7 months so longggg! appreciate ur 3 days together!
don, equal to infinity haha! thanks! walk until gigil hahah
jiayi, still physically apart la so it must be hard too. good luck to u too!
dy, migrating is hard la cause u’re not sure when u’ll meet again =( im sorry for u =(
jaysee, ya if we dont sleep we get 24 hrs a day! missing someone is not fun =( for me
ozzie, hahha yaa i cant bliv ppl actually read it! thanks ozzie
cherwee, yeah, i wont. thanks =)
justagirl, im so sorry!! T_____T thanks, though.
kc, hello! maybe u can try to work things out? like she goes back with u or u stay or something. sigh im so worried about my future too but im pretty sure ill compromise with barry. but im scared too..things arent as easy as it seems right?
thanks for your encouragement, and good luck to u too! thanks for leaving such a nice comment =)
abby, haha sorry! very depressing meh i thought very encouraging wtf
huei, aww thanks so much!
calvin, yeah thts why i wanted to write this post, cause it fits everyone so well =)
mg, hahaha is he ur bf?
ahti, i hate it!!! grr!
divz, yeap i was! u knew me then? thanks!!
kim, salut! comment ca va? must use all the french i know wtf. sigh ldr is so common now i really wish it’s not =(
paopao, wow 5 yrs! yeah its sooo hard right. yeah u’re right, sometimes i feel alot more independent too. sigh thanks so much, and good luck to u too =)
cc, hello! haha yeah but it doesnt happen anymore cause i got used to it. thanks!
You should be glad that he made effort in solving the problems. Some guys just… do nothing and wait till the 2nd day or the 3rd day only he talk to the girl,cuz he knows after so long for sure the girl is no longer angry at him. That kinda boys sucks.. AT least your bf still wrote you a long long romantic letter. T__T
Well said, Sweatlee. I am currently enjoying LDR for 2 years +. I am free to do anything, go anyway and can sleep the whole day without being disturb. Hmm… The only time kenna disturb is skypeing time. Well, I think the only different between guy and girl is guy treasure his freedom and girl always longing for companionship.
omg,me too!! hateeee sleeping. It’s so damn hard to get asleep and like especially during those important days where you need those 8 hours most, I ALWAYS end up sleeping later. Sometimes it takes me like 2 hours and more trying to sleep. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to sleep - SO SAD……
Awww, so sweet!!!
wow… thanks suetli! honestly… very timely post for me… i neve thought of going into a ldr… but sadly im about too… sigh…
can i ask something? do u ever like get carried way with ur friends (gals/guys) n then like somehow terforget he’s waiting for u online or something….? or like when ur with ur frens u r free to do whatever u like n u feel so “single” n u have so much freedom…. i duno wat im saying… >.<
hey suet.. good luck to you and barry
My bf and i are 14 hours apart and he just left exactly a week ago. Its hard but i know it’ll be worth it in the end
i feel for you -) long distance has always been our biggest enemy but you’re right, never let ldr get in the way if its worth it. the first time we met was exactly liked how u described. super AWKWARD but now we got so used to it that when i left US for GOOD..saying goodbye wasnt that difficult anymore.
all the best to u guys. i kno ull be fine =)
i guess in any relationship, even non long-distance relationships, require patience and perseverance on the part of both parties. but at the end of the day, it’s still love that matters the most (very cheesy haha).
when you love someone, all the anger and frustration and tears don’t matter at the end of the day. if it’s someone that you plan to be with forever, you commit yourself to the relationship, and you dedicate all your effort and energy to maintaining the relationship.
you’re patient, because you love. you persevere, because you love. at the end, you’ll know that your love for each other grows stronger, because of all the pain and obstacles you went through makes your relationship stronger.
so stay strong. cry when you need, laugh when you can, and scream when you want to. a relationship is not about perfection. it is not about being strong all the time, and being understanding all the time. a relationship is all about love
Hey, this sounds soooo familiar. LoL! I could totally relate to it! =D It’s hard but when you see him after a long time… it feels like falling in love with him for the first time eh. =D But i must agree, the tendency to fight over small things like time to come online or ‘you’re not there for me scenarios’ mutiply a few folds just because of the time difference. it sucks but absence do make the heart grow fonder anyway. =D
Omg, is it with us girls that we give up very easily!! ‘Cause in my relationship, my bf is the one who preservers whereas last time small small thing I will ask for break wtf. T__T
it is wordy but I read every single word of it cause I need to face the same problem as you facing right now… T.T
LDR FTW!
hahahaha. LDR’s a bitch, a pain in the arse, and time difference is the most fcukity fcuk fcuk thing, but we all know, it’s totally worth it! HEEEE.
And I think i’m worse than you. There was one time, when I argued with my bf, we didn’t talk for 3 weeks AT ALL which was uber ridiculous -__-” We didn’t declare our relationship is over but we just errr…didn’t talk wtf -___-”
And Skype’s landline plans are the most brilliant things ever!10 Euros for unlimited calls!: )
haha..yeap i knew u…
but i don’t think u remember me lor..as i was quite the silent one..what class were you in in standard 6?
u guys are so admirable!!
sigh, suet li youre a saviour you know? this post came up at just the right timing. my bf and i have been together for about 2 months only, and cos we just finished college, we’re both going to study in Monash, but I in Malaysia and him in Australia. i admit la, i really couldnt take it at first, i had so many doubts and all, and then he kept asking me whether i trust him. i mean, i do, but theres all these stupid nagging doubts at the back of your mind. questions like “what if he finds someone else there?” you know those usual questions? aih, but he’s always been so honest with me and so patient that i feel bad for feeling that way. he trusts me a whole lot. whats more, we’re both doing engineering so he worries about me more cos i’ll be surrounded by guys all the time.
sigh, i cried everyday when i got the news about a week ago. he promised to call at least once a week but i dunno whether thats really enough? i really admire you and barry when you guys had the 12 hour difference and you still made it through.
recently my bf has been busy trying to get ready for australia, ie. looking for accomodation, etc etc. so then i get all upset cos over here when he’s so busy we RARELY talk, and im not exaggerating. like today we didnt talk at all until 7.30 pm? i was so upset la but hes always so understanding that i feel unreasonable sometimes. but i cant help feeling that way sometimes. i get angry that he doesnt make time for me even when he’s busy. is that wrong? i worry more when he goes to aus cos like over here we dont spend much time together when he’s busy, what more when he’s getting used to a new environment and all?
sigh i dunno why im telling this to the whole world. honestly, maybe because i need to know that LDRs do work? or maybe cos i need someone to tell me that its okay that im feeling this way? or that its not okay? im confused. =(
and omg, so long im so so sorry =.=’ but i do feel better after reading your post. thanks suet li
Not all LDRs work. My hostelmates did not have a good time with them.
You’re one tough person.
Suet, i lost…. LDR defeats me…
3 months after i came Japan, then i was dumped…
Nomatter how hard i tried, she just left.
5yrs relationship cant stand for 3 months distance….
suet li, thank u so much for this very timely post.
i think while i know the theory of it all, i needed a reminder and your post has done just that, in reminding me why i agreed to go into a LDR in the first place.
all the best to you and barry
OMG Suet Li Liew YOU ARE MY IDOL WTF. Have I told you that yours is my favourite blog? After reading this entry, I feel that the fights and emo-ness with my bf was really uncalled for and silly. I have to understand that LDR is already a difficult thing to do and I shouldn’t make it harder.
I just told my bf to read this entry and he told me he read it already this morning (even faster than me!) cos he has your blog on his Bookmark (my influence) hahahha. You’re such an inspiration and when I think about how hard LDR is, I think about you and Barry wtf really! Thank you again.
hi suet!I feel the need to comment! you write each bits of LDR perfectly well. Thats how exaactly I felt when I was LDR for 9 months. Upset tick, cries a lot tick, talk less tick, sigh. I guess its all worthwhile when we meet them again.
Hi Suet, I’ve been reading your blog for sometime and never felt the need to comment - although all your posts are very interesting - because you always have heaps of comments on your blog. Haha. But I felt the urge to give you a big hug to tell you how much I respect you for your patience and perseverence. I know I could never do that. I am impatient and spoilt. Maybe that’s why I don’t have and don’t deserve a boyfriend. Heh.
Hang in there, tomorrow will always be better than today.
For the past 6 years, almost 3 years me and my bf were in a LDR. I know exactly how you feel and I’m sure nothing can come in between a couple if you REALLY REALLY put in some patience and tolerance. Every fight is a new lesson.. I don’t know how I survive all these years but its definitely worth the waiting. Fingers crossed to all LDR couples out there and especially to you and Barry!
i see my future in my bf =) u knw, i knw. That kind of feelings. hehehe. still need some warm up everytime. but things will get better =) im still putting effort, much effort in it so that I’d be able to enjoy all the way long. u’ll understand ^_^ kan???
omg!! at last I get to find someone that is same! I hate sleeping too cause everytime when I go to sleep, I need at least 30 minits! if fall asleep d, any sound even those soft wan also can wake me up, then very hard to sleep back d..so sien T_T
anyway..bout ur LDR, no worries…been following ur blog for quite some time d but 1st time comment…I’ve been thru LDR before, argument sure got..but maybe u can take it as a good thing cause good argument can be mean as good communication, is better than those that angry of each other but cold war. most importantly is u guys trust each other, guess that’s the most important thing, but I think u n ur bf have a solid relationship, so it will not be hard for u..although mentally gotta suffer it when he is not there for u…but U CAN DO IT!
I’m so jealous of both of you..sigh..me and my ex couldn’t work out our LDR issues so before I went overseas we broke up. The sad thing was we both still love each other very much..
halo gal~ i m here again.haha…act i think every couple experiencing quite similar cases as urs…like me n my bf…haha my bf use to be insensitive sometimes…but i m the one who cant keep *ANYTHIGN* in my heart..so i will jz tell him *EVERYTHING* ..we fight a lot too sometimes! but then jz view it as a *qing qu* then will be better :p anyway..may i know wat is * LDR* ?? sorry if u think i m stupid enough to ask tis question cz i really don und wat it is :p
Hey Suet
I’ve being reading your blog avidly and never left any comment but this post really came close to the heart 
I’m on the verge of having an LDR in 3 weeks time :(( sigh. This is going to be hard and I hope we can make it through. All the best to you dear 
you know what I feel like hugging u right now. *big warm teddy bear hug*
That’s a super loooooong post. I nv even manage to read finish. But all I know is…, hang on there girl!
Bless your relationship, bless it good!
hello!i love what you wrote,and could feel for it,im sure you and barry can make it through,cuz you two are meant for each other!when you think someone is worth spending the rest of your life with,do all you can to keep the relationship going and things will work out for you two…soon you two will be united laaa,no worries:D
ps:wahahaha…my bf is really patient with me too when i shut myself off from him…haihya when we graduate we may have to do a LDR too…
good post suet, seriously not bad for an insomniac! wtf.=)
indeed it’s a tough battle, and sometimes you feel you’re at the losing end, but you pulled through. props to barry’s persistence and your “soft” heart. hehe.
all the best to both of you!
ooo.. suet 101. that will be interesting barry!
seriously after a total of 2 1/2 years of LDR i never want to be away from my other half again. i guess it’s easier once you’ve both finished studying and settle somewhere so you can plan, like really plan for your future together:)
i love you and i do want you to be my sister in law /shy
steph, yeah im really glad he never gives up. =D
on9, why u say enjoying haha more like suffering T_T
sohpoh, ya it’s always like tht lor! hate it grr.
lalala, glad it helped =) yeah i do that sometimes and he’ll get emo =( but not as emo as i am when he does it haha im so double standard. but we dont do it too much la, only sometimes
melissa, thanks!! aww good luck too =)
sga, what u mean when u left for good?? so u guys are gonna be separated forever? =(((
irene, yeah true it works for all rships. well said..well said. haha all about love so corny hor. but it’s true sigh
yuhhui, yeah it really sucks and i agree, absence does make the heart grow fonder but i rather do without it still
huiwen, i think we’re really lucky we found guys like tht lor huiwen T__T
kylie, aww thanks! good luck T_T
debra, why u FTW!! 3 weeks omg damnnn long right! i dont think i can stand not talking for 3 weeks lor i’ll go crazy! 3 days also wanna die edi.
divz, wht’s ur name! try me my memory is good. ok lemme guess from ur nickname..deeviana
? hahah i dunno just guessing k! i was in 6 kreatif…i think. or aktif?
ying, thanks =DD
lind, i hope it helped! aww dont cry so much T_T u can do it. dont think about it too much, just try your best. the more you worry the more pressure u’re putting on the rship( and on both of u) so just let things go naturally. if it doesnt work then only deal with it later.
it’s not wrong la to get mad but i think we girls have to be more understanding sometimes. i can be really sensitive too and i really hate myself for it so i try to change but its damn hard la T_T
YES LDRs do work im a living testament to that wtf. it’s totally ok for u to feel tht way but i hope u hold on a little bit more, if the guy is worth it. good luck to you =)
michelle, yeah i think im lucky sometimes. thanks =)
cruel, aww im so sorry T_____T sigh ldrs really suck
lynn, im so glad this post helped so many people..i think all the comments bring tears to my eyes wtf dman emo. thanks and good luck to u too =)
xiangyun, awww why u so nice!! wuwuw im so touched T_T dont worry despite me saying i’ve learnt my lessons blabla im actually still a very difficult gf hahaha. aww so nice u both read my blog! seriously im so touched la. good luck ok!
ping, hello! yeah it’s not completely worth it but it’s worth holding on..
pammy, hello =) aww thanks for your virtual hug! eh dont day that! u do deserve someone for you! everyone does. thanks again you’re so sweet.
tracy, it’s so nice to hear stories from other LDR couples too! good luck to u too ok
jaclyn, yeah totally understand..good luck! ^_^
voon, ya seriously im such a light sleeper also lor! i used to be a pig dunno why like that now T_T thanks for your encouragement!
emily, im sorry T_T i have friends who did that too and i feel very very sad cause they havent even tested it out how would they know it wont work! if you still love each other please pleaseee try it? i hope i’ll hear good news from you =(
sherlyn, ldr is long distance relationship! hhaha. no worries!
steffie, hello! i really hope everything goes well with you. good luck ok!
alice, awww thanks i do want a hug now!
discotheque, hahah go read all laaa! thanks!
lf, thanks =D sigh dont ldrs really suck!
fel, haha! thanks! yeah tht post will be really interesting lor!
aud, awwwwwwwwww why u so sweet!!! i cant wait to plan for our future together u know =)))
yes he is
ur post is really an inspiration to all LDR couples out there. 
*hugs*
want to CNY dee! dun so emoe kay?
Hehe, don’t be so emo. But when I read your post…I actually think that what you are writing is reflecting me and J’s life. Our relationship is ‘part-time’ long distance. Well, trust and perseverance is most crucial. We can do this Suet Li.
Man, I’ve been insomniac lately too, well more like since I’ve been in LA. Takes me at least 45mins, sometimes up to and hour and a half to go to sleep. And when I do sleep, it’s always restless sleep. Hoooww… I’ve got a job interview Friday morning, die.
Regarding LDR, i’ve been there too. LDR with the bf for about 2 years. I’m here with him in LA now and our 2 year anniversary will be on Valentine’s day.
Persevere and patience is the key, i think. And of course, true love, cheesy but yeah.
graduated so left for good. and ofcourse not, ill see him over the summer =) 5 months only wert *omg*
anyway reading all these comments from ur readers, u should be very proud of urself. so much love!
*stands up and claps crazily* T_____T
we should be named the luckiest girls ever for having bfs who nvr give up.
cheers
ahh *hugs*
yay suet li =D
LDR is always hard but keep on going ok? I’ve been like that for 4 years and now I am finally back home and decided to stay with my boy. So, be strong. I am a sensitive person and I know how it feels when you cant find your bf but having LDR you have to take it and just accept it also get used to it. Life is like that, so keep on going…support you here….
hahaha..nice try…n nice name!!…nope my name is thiveya…err..which i still dont think u remember..i was in 6 cemerlang…wth!..i think..hahah…u noe wats the best part…i still remember ur voice..because i think its unique..i can remember stuffs like dat till i die..hahaha..
HEY ask ur bf to read ur blog. =D
Stephanie: ummm
that’s great
I’ve been in three LDRS: two Malaysia-Japan and one Canada-America. Sucks, yes it does, but having a wonderful man like you do makes it so much better.
linked here from my cousin sue anne’s blog.
Sleeping is not for the weak. Not sleeping makes u weak and more prone to emo-ness
Thanks for this post Suet….my boyfriend’s leaving Malaysia on vacation tomorrow. So I’ve been having a major crying spells the past few days and we just had a major disagreement too. Now, I feel like a complete wuss after reading what you wrote but it also makes me feel like I am not alone in all the weird, conflicting and intense emotions I experience. Hugz and thanks
from ur blog only i know they are many people out there with successful LDR..this give me confident that LDR can work too..
stay strong suet..jia you =)
Your post came just in time.
Thanks for giving ppl like me- single for about a year, and on the verge of giving up on love completely, and then this nice guy comes along but he’s based in Melbourne - HOPE.
i spose if you really see something different in the dood, the LDR is survive-able
You rock girl. Dont stop writing, ever. Always so sincere with your writings, and i totally adore the whole love in in ze air thing between you and Barry.
Hugs xx.
long story short, nearly exact same thing gone through… just without the daily communication. msn… nearly none cause he don’t online much… sms.. if i sms him… but I can see myself being with him so I guess I should hold on? no idea @@ wth… thinking about it always makes me insane!
p/s: i came all the way from msia to sydney to be nearer to him =) he is based in melbourne tho after mufy in msia @@
a really meaningful post. but I broke with my LDR bf because things aren’t going right and it was just a few hours BEFORE reaading this post ):
it helps to know that there’re other people going through what i am going through as well. and it’s also comforting to know u’re not alone sometimes… at least i don’t feel like my relationship is THAT dysfunctional cause we do fight a lot about the distance. i guess it’s normal and we just have to work things out.
Hey, I just stumbled across this and I can’t help leaving a comment.. Cos I’ve been in an LDR with my bf for almost 2 years now (Aust-Malaysia). Everything you’ve said here is EXACTLY true! Hahahaha.. THe bitch fits and the emo-ness and the breaks.. But kudos to you guys, I’m glad to see someone else goes through the same thing as me and makes it through stronger!
hey suet.im a reader of yours haha.n i used to blog but not anymore.anyway i reli admire u n ur bf’s love for each other.im new in LDR cz my bf recently left for germany for his studies and im goin to NZ in feb.so we’ll b 12 hours apart.from your post i can tell it’s goin to b reli difficult as it ady is now and i think bout him all the time.your post inspired me to work harder in our relationship bcz if u can make it then y cant i? =) keep up the good work suet.dun let the passion between u n ur guy die and show others that LDR isnt impossible.
Hey there… I’m really like, relieved to read this post of yours. Not to say I’m happy about your unhappiness or anything like that but I’m just glad that this isn’t the case for my bf and I alone! Okay fine we’re living apart in the far ends of a state but man, we are already experiencing the same shit. Except the time zone difference. But we’re both encouraged by your post, so thanks lots for writing that! And all the best with your boyfriend!
guess what, i’ve had 3 LDRs previously.
and guess what again? i’m havin my 4th.
so yea, quickly be happier already because it’s 4 times suckier for me. hahaha.
At the very least, you held on and a relationship is always a 2 way thingy. It takes 2 to clap, no distance is too far if you really do want this relationship. I went through a failed long distance relationship months ago and I’m still trying to recover from it where I still feel like breaking down and giving in to all these emptiness I’m feeling without my other half.
It impresses me how much effort both of you put into this relationship.
Hang on when there’s sad times, there’s no obstacle that’s impossible to pull through if two person does it hand in hand
all the best.
I am totally agree with you ! tumb up !!
I like this post very much and i am sOoo jealous
wondering why my ex will not think like your Baz
i hope he can read this >.<
OMG….. same here, it’s been 4 months since my bf left and i can really really really relate to those fight-make up,fight-make up thingy. lol. like, you get mad and ask for a break up then eventually ull realize how much you love him. *cheers* for our patient partners though
*sigh* i wish we could be together soon… i wish we’re together on christmas and new year,plus his birthday =(
anyway…this post is awesome
10/10