Comments on: Five years down the road http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/ Fri, 30 Jul 2010 22:02:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Beatris Masser http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-27038 Beatris Masser Sat, 20 Mar 2010 14:05:14 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-27038 lol, Ellen is so crazy! I love her. lol, Ellen is so crazy! I love her.

]]> By: GLoo http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-24820 GLoo Tue, 26 Jan 2010 23:36:35 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-24820 I'm sorta in the initial stages of what both of you had gone through. And trust me, it's not easy. I'm truly amazed by the way both of you worked things out, eventhough you were so far from each other. This post inspired me to believe in every possibility that a Long Distant Relationship will work if you put your heart to it. Happy belated anniversary by the way. :) I’m sorta in the initial stages of what both of you had gone through. And trust me, it’s not easy. I’m truly amazed by the way both of you worked things out, eventhough you were so far from each other. This post inspired me to believe in every possibility that a Long Distant Relationship will work if you put your heart to it. Happy belated anniversary by the way. :)

]]> By: HC http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-24115 HC Sat, 09 Jan 2010 01:18:17 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-24115 Hi!I have been a silent reader and I read this post almost a month ago and I hv been telling some friends about it too. So I thought I really should make a comment because somehow I could really relate to this post and you're really telling what is in your heart and so honest about it. Its amazing. My 6 yr relationship ended a few months back after we got into a LDR. But it is not really because of the LDR.. Things and circumstances has changed over the years and me and my ex grew up differently. I still find it sad that it had to end this way, but I think I am much happier now. I left home for the first time and experiencing a whole new world by being independent, traveling, working, meeting new people..(i guess it is something like u in HK). I am absolutely loving my life here. We still talk to each other every now and then and it feels so comfortable but I just couldn't see him as my life partner and we are not ready to sacrifice for each other yet so i guess that shows that he is not the one? Love is really complicated. :S I am really impressed with Baz, he is strong enough to hold on to what you guys had all these years and he seems really sweet. I think you really found somebody great. :) I love reading your couple posts and it really does give hopes to a lot of couples out there doing LDRs. IMHO, HK was a blessing in disguise for you. You are young and it is good that you experience life and most importantly still being able to hang on to your relationship. I guess it was a good test and you guys aced! Happy Anniversary! I hope he is really the ONE for you and for now enjoy life and the journey together. Goodluck Baz & Suet! p/s: I know it is abit of a nonsense...I am writing this in a rush as I nd to get bck to work. Just really wanted to drop u a comment. Hi!I have been a silent reader and I read this post almost a month ago and I hv been telling some friends about it too. So I thought I really should make a comment because somehow I could really relate to this post and you’re really telling what is in your heart and so honest about it. Its amazing.

My 6 yr relationship ended a few months back after we got into a LDR. But it is not really because of the LDR.. Things and circumstances has changed over the years and me and my ex grew up differently. I still find it sad that it had to end this way, but I think I am much happier now. I left home for the first time and experiencing a whole new world by being independent, traveling, working, meeting new people..(i guess it is something like u in HK). I am absolutely loving my life here. We still talk to each other every now and then and it feels so comfortable but I just couldn’t see him as my life partner and we are not ready to sacrifice for each other yet so i guess that shows that he is not the one? Love is really complicated. :S

I am really impressed with Baz, he is strong enough to hold on to what you guys had all these years and he seems really sweet. I think you really found somebody great. :) I love reading your couple posts and it really does give hopes to a lot of couples out there doing LDRs. IMHO, HK was a blessing in disguise for you. You are young and it is good that you experience life and most importantly still being able to hang on to your relationship. I guess it was a good test and you guys aced! Happy Anniversary!

I hope he is really the ONE for you and for now enjoy life and the journey together. Goodluck Baz & Suet!

p/s: I know it is abit of a nonsense…I am writing this in a rush as I nd to get bck to work. Just really wanted to drop u a comment.

]]> By: kana http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-23449 kana Sun, 27 Dec 2009 18:47:17 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-23449 oh my god, When I read this, I had a feeling of dejavu. The exact same things my gf talked to me about a week ago. About how we might be under living our peak years because we're getting too comfortable with our life now that we have found love. We're into our third year of LDR, it's be difficult but beautiful at the same time. You're both right about wanting to live your dreams, living with ambition in heart and making the most of life. The thing is, when we're in a relationship with someone else we have more than just one dream to worry about. Everyone want to try out everything, fall down get hurt, brush it off and learn about life themselves but it's not something to be taken that lightly. The basis of growth of our species is by learning through the mistakes of our peers. Why get hurt when you don't have to, it's like you trying to ignore edison's work and try to make your own blub. Temptations are there and it never leaves, we just have to fight against the tide. Living your dream isn't a sin, but once you have tied your commitments to another, dreams must be amde togather, not alone. Remember dear, you're not the only one who wants their dream, I'm sure baz too has his dreams things he had sacrifized for your relationship just like how I have for mine. But, we're human after all, 'to err is human", I'm glad you woke up from that short walk out of the narrow line ^^. Happy Aniversary, sorry if i had said anything hurtful. I really do hope you two will be there the next 10,20...50 years to come. Just like how I want my relationship with my baby last. You're lucky to have an aniversary in december, new years are a freash start ^_^ oh my god,

When I read this, I had a feeling of dejavu. The exact same things my gf talked to me about a week ago. About how we might be under living our peak years because we’re getting too comfortable with our life now that we have found love. We’re into our third year of LDR, it’s be difficult but beautiful at the same time. You’re both right about wanting to live your dreams, living with ambition in heart and making the most of life. The thing is, when we’re in a relationship with someone else we have more than just one dream to worry about. Everyone want to try out everything, fall down get hurt, brush it off and learn about life themselves but it’s not something to be taken that lightly. The basis of growth of our species is by learning through the mistakes of our peers. Why get hurt when you don’t have to, it’s like you trying to ignore edison’s work and try to make your own blub. Temptations are there and it never leaves, we just have to fight against the tide. Living your dream isn’t a sin, but once you have tied your commitments to another, dreams must be amde togather, not alone. Remember dear, you’re not the only one who wants their dream, I’m sure baz too has his dreams things he had sacrifized for your relationship just like how I have for mine. But, we’re human after all, ‘to err is human”, I’m glad you woke up from that short walk out of the narrow line ^^. Happy Aniversary, sorry if i had said anything hurtful. I really do hope you two will be there the next 10,20…50 years to come. Just like how I want my relationship with my baby last. You’re lucky to have an aniversary in december, new years are a freash start ^_^

]]> By: Pix http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-23150 Pix Sat, 19 Dec 2009 22:21:15 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-23150 Suet, one day u will look back at this entry and thank God for the decision to come HK. Its better to go all out now when u r not married rather than one day u realised u r married with kids ...and u have just discovered the word FUN. Its part of parcel of growing up, it happens to everyone albeit different times & situations. These experience will prepare u to adulthood where u wud need to settle down in future. Happy Anniversary & all the best in ur exams *HUGSS* Suet, one day u will look back at this entry and thank God for the decision to come HK. Its better to go all out now when u r not married rather than one day u realised u r married with kids …and u have just discovered the word FUN.

Its part of parcel of growing up, it happens to everyone albeit different times & situations. These experience will prepare u to adulthood where u wud need to settle down in future.

Happy Anniversary & all the best in ur exams *HUGSS*

]]> By: lydia http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-23140 lydia Sat, 19 Dec 2009 17:01:51 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-23140 this was exactly how I felt. My relationship is a few months shy of 5 years (almost called it off too!)- and it does feel too darn long, that sometimes it makes me wonder what's wrong that we're not headed somewhere? Where's our future? I guess from then on, I reshuffled my priorities. And I'm glad I did. A happy ending doesn't necessarily play out like what we imagined in our heads because there's so much more 'something else's out there to look forward to! I hope that you and Barry will hang in there; because then, there is the possibility of a happy ending with him. :) Much love! xoxo this was exactly how I felt. My relationship is a few months shy of 5 years (almost called it off too!)- and it does feel too darn long, that sometimes it makes me wonder what’s wrong that we’re not headed somewhere? Where’s our future?

I guess from then on, I reshuffled my priorities. And I’m glad I did. A happy ending doesn’t necessarily play out like what we imagined in our heads because there’s so much more ’something else’s out there to look forward to!

I hope that you and Barry will hang in there; because then, there is the possibility of a happy ending with him. :)

Much love! xoxo

]]> By: stephanie k http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-23097 stephanie k Fri, 18 Dec 2009 02:31:08 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-23097 omg .. i cried at the end... if there isnt fairy tale will there still be down to earth yet amazingly owesome sweatlee posts from now on? omg .. i cried at the end…
if there isnt fairy tale will there still be down to earth yet amazingly owesome sweatlee posts from now on?

]]> By: cheryl http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-23062 cheryl Thu, 17 Dec 2009 09:59:03 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-23062 i teared reading this. =( im 20 and my relationship (two years), its gonna be a LDR very soon. guess im still like the 'old' you, trying to convince myself that everything will be fine as long as we love each other. wish you all the best with barry. =) i teared reading this. =(
im 20 and my relationship (two years), its gonna be a LDR very soon.
guess im still like the ‘old’ you, trying to convince myself that everything will be fine as long as we love each other.

wish you all the best with barry. =)

]]> By: lalala~ http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-23052 lalala~ Thu, 17 Dec 2009 04:37:49 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-23052 i just have one thing to say... whatever happens in the future i feel that you shouldn't think about your family, friends, readers just because they expect both of you to be together. cause at the end of the day its only BazSuet. no one will be there for u if things turn ugly after u guys are married. remember u r NOT being selfish. its your future. take care! *hugs* =) i just have one thing to say…
whatever happens in the future i feel that you shouldn’t think about your family, friends, readers just because they expect both of you to be together. cause at the end of the day its only BazSuet. no one will be there for u if things turn ugly after u guys are married. remember u r NOT being selfish. its your future.

take care! *hugs* =)

]]> By: Melissa http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-23017 Melissa Wed, 16 Dec 2009 17:07:05 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-23017 Suet, i am an exchange student in Korea and also in a LDR with my bf who is in the states. And similar to you, i lost control over myself when i first came. The first two months i was just out drinking, and doing stuff which i would never do when im in Malaysia. I got myself tangled up in a relationship with one of my friend, which in result made him so upset that we almost gave up our four year and 8 months relationship. Like barry, he held on and like you too, i just snapped back into reality, realizing how critical this situation was. Thank goodness i never let go (well i almost), and now he will be coming over for Christmas vacation, then its just 2 more years LDR and then we will be back together <3 Thanks Suet for being such an inspiration ! <3 <3 Suet, i am an exchange student in Korea and also in a LDR with my bf who is in the states. And similar to you, i lost control over myself when i first came. The first two months i was just out drinking, and doing stuff which i would never do when im in Malaysia. I got myself tangled up in a relationship with one of my friend, which in result made him so upset that we almost gave up our four year and 8 months relationship. Like barry, he held on and like you too, i just snapped back into reality, realizing how critical this situation was. Thank goodness i never let go (well i almost), and now he will be coming over for Christmas vacation, then its just 2 more years LDR and then we will be back together <3

Thanks Suet for being such an inspiration ! <3 <3

]]> By: Erlinda http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22998 Erlinda Wed, 16 Dec 2009 08:13:23 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22998 i seriusly tot that u guys broke up or maybe on the verge of breaking up... phewwwww... what a relief! happy 5th year .. :) i seriusly tot that u guys broke up or maybe on the verge of breaking up… phewwwww… what a relief! happy 5th year .. :)

]]> By: anxie1y http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22993 anxie1y Wed, 16 Dec 2009 05:56:12 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22993 i want a gf like suet. T.T i want a gf like suet. T.T

]]> By: hbk http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22946 hbk Tue, 15 Dec 2009 14:31:33 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22946 W... u creating storieS? c'mon all guys r the same.. they think with different head... W… u creating storieS? c’mon all guys r the same.. they think with different head…

]]> By: sweatlee http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22934 sweatlee Tue, 15 Dec 2009 06:24:25 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22934 <b> thanks everyone for the kind words and encouragement, and thanks for telling me all your stories in return too. this is exactly how i imagine my relationship with my readers will be :) sigh i can't reiterate enough how grateful i am to have the most amazing audience ever. anyway i can't reply one by one anymore cause i have to study for my exams, sorry T__T thanks again for reading and commenting!!! ♥</b> thanks everyone for the kind words and encouragement, and thanks for telling me all your stories in return too. this is exactly how i imagine my relationship with my readers will be :)
sigh i can’t reiterate enough how grateful i am to have the most amazing audience ever. anyway i can’t reply one by one anymore cause i have to study for my exams, sorry T__T thanks again for reading and commenting!!! ♥

]]> By: W http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22929 W Tue, 15 Dec 2009 04:12:57 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22929 Hey Suet, Happy 5th Anniversary! I'm sure many have said this before but it is definitely one of the most honest posts I've ever read. My relationship was almost 6 years old, 1 of which spent in an LDR. Like you, he was my everything, my lover, my best friend going through so much in our lives growing up. Earlier this year I left Penang for Melbourne to further my studies and during that first semester I clung on to him like my lifeline. It took a toll because I could never be assured, not that he's very good at it. Even before I left he was never very good at reassurance through SMS, calls, MSN and later on Skype. Only when I see him in person I feel reassured because only then I can see how much he loves me. While I was there I went over the line many times forcing him to reassure me in ways he could not and even emotionally blackmailed him with threats of breaking up. Something I'm very ashamed about. Much as I want to deny it, maybe he doesn't feel as strongly towards me as I do him and all that pressure shook his faith in the future of our relationship He didn't hold on to whatever that was left like Barry did, I was always the one who did that. For that I think you really do need to appreciate Barry, he truly is a rare gem, not that you need any reminding =) We timed out at the end of the first sem and got back when I came back in July for a month before start of second sem. Took a different approach by being more independent, both of us. Relaxing the relationship a bit. That decision had 2 consequences. 1 was that we lead happier lives because we didn't cling on so hard and get hurt from all that missing. 2 was that it cooled down the feelings. All was very smooth this time round but when I came back he claimed his feelings for me have faded and refused to see me after just one date. He is probably going through what you went through, minus the change of environment but change of life yes because he just graduated and is about to start work. Like you, he may have lost sight of our "future", the glue that keeps an LDR going, justifying the pain. It's sad to think how a guy who used to tease me about getting married very soon could have such a change of view. He probably wondered if being with me has limited his life and so on, just like you and decided to let go. He told me this when I came back in July when we mended things, that maybe it's time to pause and evaluate things but I refused and convinced him that we should continue instead of going on a timeout. Maybe that's why I agreed to the breakup without fighting much, which is very unusual of me, because my own faith has been shaken like his. I've grown tired as well and this way is probably better, less pain and it's not impossible for us to be together again, but if that happens we will have to start all over again because when you've been in a relationship for so long, you start assuming things about him/her rather than asking to know when you first start off in a relationship. I probably could've fought as said we can mend things, relight the fire during this 3 months I'm back here but having my faith in our "future" shaken as well, I don't even know if it's worth it. Mending things and get so used to having each other again only to end up being thrown back into an LDR for another year before I come back for good. It's just much too painful that way. We are still on very good terms as best friends, which is very odd as it should be very painful but oddly it's not altogether too hard because this is how we have been for the 2nd sem, just that it's my turn to get used to life back here without him. All I can say now is that I will take my life one step at a time, one day at a time, live my life to the fullest and see what fate has in store for us, and me =P Probably have bogged you down with my story for too long. Wishing you all the best with Barry! Hey Suet,

Happy 5th Anniversary!
I’m sure many have said this before but it is definitely one of the most honest posts I’ve ever read.
My relationship was almost 6 years old, 1 of which spent in an LDR.
Like you, he was my everything, my lover, my best friend going through so much in our lives growing up.
Earlier this year I left Penang for Melbourne to further my studies and during that first semester I clung on to him like my lifeline.
It took a toll because I could never be assured, not that he’s very good at it. Even before I left he was never very good at reassurance through SMS, calls, MSN and later on Skype. Only when I see him in person I feel reassured because only then I can see how much he loves me.
While I was there I went over the line many times forcing him to reassure me in ways he could not and even emotionally blackmailed him with threats of breaking up.
Something I’m very ashamed about.
Much as I want to deny it, maybe he doesn’t feel as strongly towards me as I do him and all that pressure shook his faith in the future of our relationship
He didn’t hold on to whatever that was left like Barry did, I was always the one who did that. For that I think you really do need to appreciate Barry, he truly is a rare gem, not that you need any reminding =)
We timed out at the end of the first sem and got back when I came back in July for a month before start of second sem.
Took a different approach by being more independent, both of us. Relaxing the relationship a bit.
That decision had 2 consequences. 1 was that we lead happier lives because we didn’t cling on so hard and get hurt from all that missing. 2 was that it cooled down the feelings.
All was very smooth this time round but when I came back he claimed his feelings for me have faded and refused to see me after just one date.
He is probably going through what you went through, minus the change of environment but change of life yes because he just graduated and is about to start work.
Like you, he may have lost sight of our “future”, the glue that keeps an LDR going, justifying the pain.
It’s sad to think how a guy who used to tease me about getting married very soon could have such a change of view.
He probably wondered if being with me has limited his life and so on, just like you and decided to let go.
He told me this when I came back in July when we mended things, that maybe it’s time to pause and evaluate things but I refused and convinced him that we should continue instead of going on a timeout.
Maybe that’s why I agreed to the breakup without fighting much, which is very unusual of me, because my own faith has been shaken like his.
I’ve grown tired as well and this way is probably better, less pain and it’s not impossible for us to be together again, but if that happens we will have to start all over again because when you’ve been in a relationship for so long, you start assuming things about him/her rather than asking to know when you first start off in a relationship.
I probably could’ve fought as said we can mend things, relight the fire during this 3 months I’m back here but having my faith in our “future” shaken as well, I don’t even know if it’s worth it.
Mending things and get so used to having each other again only to end up being thrown back into an LDR for another year before I come back for good.
It’s just much too painful that way.
We are still on very good terms as best friends, which is very odd as it should be very painful but oddly it’s not altogether too hard because this is how we have been for the 2nd sem, just that it’s my turn to get used to life back here without him.
All I can say now is that I will take my life one step at a time, one day at a time, live my life to the fullest and see what fate has in store for us, and me =P
Probably have bogged you down with my story for too long.

Wishing you all the best with Barry!

]]> By: JaySean http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22927 JaySean Tue, 15 Dec 2009 03:11:18 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22927 I like the pic... It has a nice touch~~~~ I like the pic… It has a nice touch~~~~

]]> By: Cline http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22919 Cline Mon, 14 Dec 2009 23:00:05 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22919 Wow, I'm actually so glad that you went through this stage! A real relationship is not one which does not have any arguments/problems, but is one that can withstand all the obstacles, and still standing firm at the end of the day. Because you so love a person that you are willing to find a solution/solutions to make it all well again, though there'll be a lot of struggling/sacrificing/pain. I'm sure that your relationship has now been leveled up, a level which is nearer to marriage =) (though it may be still years to go) P.S: Help me tell baz that you love him...Opps, you did it already...But please remind him this always, and ask him to do the same ^_^ Wow, I’m actually so glad that you went through this stage! A real relationship is not one which does not have any arguments/problems, but is one that can withstand all the obstacles, and still standing firm at the end of the day. Because you so love a person that you are willing to find a solution/solutions to make it all well again, though there’ll be a lot of struggling/sacrificing/pain.

I’m sure that your relationship has now been leveled up, a level which is nearer to marriage =) (though it may be still years to go)

P.S: Help me tell baz that you love him…Opps, you did it already…But please remind him this always, and ask him to do the same ^_^

]]> By: Hantu http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22915 Hantu Mon, 14 Dec 2009 18:33:13 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22915 wow! i am in love with suet! wow! i am in love with suet!

]]> By: cherry http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22910 cherry Mon, 14 Dec 2009 16:56:21 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22910 congrats, suet! =) congrats, suet! =)

]]> By: valerie http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22906 valerie Mon, 14 Dec 2009 14:22:57 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22906 Nice. Congrats and good luck! Nice. Congrats and good luck!

]]> By: hbk http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22905 hbk Mon, 14 Dec 2009 14:09:50 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22905 oi~!~!suet... i'm not kidding.. haha...serious oneeeeeee oi~!~!suet… i’m not kidding.. haha…serious oneeeeeee

]]> By: Tey Cindy http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22904 Tey Cindy Mon, 14 Dec 2009 13:57:26 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22904 distance makes one wiser. a lot! not many survive it, but i'm glad u came 2 yr senses quick! back on the right track baybeh~ U know a lot of grls let go the guy who loves em so much for freedom, in the end when they got dumped they find back their exes? aiyooo... jia lat lo that one. XD distance makes one wiser. a lot! not many survive it, but i’m glad u came 2 yr senses quick! back on the right track baybeh~

U know a lot of grls let go the guy who loves em so much for freedom, in the end when they got dumped they find back their exes? aiyooo… jia lat lo that one. XD

]]> By: chippabomb http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22903 chippabomb Mon, 14 Dec 2009 13:50:36 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22903 In this game of life, you have 'levelled up'! I'm waiting for my turn. ;) In this game of life, you have ‘levelled up’! I’m waiting for my turn. ;)

]]> By: angie http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22900 angie Mon, 14 Dec 2009 13:16:43 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22900 I miss you and Aud alot T__________T（sorry no relation to this post wtf but i wish Barry's grad will come soon T3T) I miss you and Aud alot T__________T（sorry no relation to this post wtf but i wish Barry’s grad will come soon T3T)

]]> By: Kim Ong http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22899 Kim Ong Mon, 14 Dec 2009 12:36:31 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22899 Honey, you're like pouring out my emotions in this blog entry but the only difference is, I had that one year in Perth and where I am now - married and those short few years of extreme clubbing was just right and enough for me. I felt like I've seen enough already. I think there are those who are deluded and think they wanna mature faster than they should and there are those who sit back, relax yet analyse enough to realise that they are indeed matured enough and can take steps to approach the adulthood at a much faster pace, so why not? You're in the latter group. So, go for it. Happy Anniversary. He may be the one. If your heart tells you so, then he really is. Listen to the heart. Achieve what you need first (studies) and the world is your oyster. Honey, you’re like pouring out my emotions in this blog entry but the only difference is, I had that one year in Perth and where I am now - married and those short few years of extreme clubbing was just right and enough for me. I felt like I’ve seen enough already. I think there are those who are deluded and think they wanna mature faster than they should and there are those who sit back, relax yet analyse enough to realise that they are indeed matured enough and can take steps to approach the adulthood at a much faster pace, so why not? You’re in the latter group. So, go for it. Happy Anniversary. He may be the one. If your heart tells you so, then he really is. Listen to the heart. Achieve what you need first (studies) and the world is your oyster.

]]> By: melo http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22887 melo Mon, 14 Dec 2009 10:08:25 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22887 So sweeett T_______________________T So sweeett T_______________________T

]]> By: Ash http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22884 Ash Mon, 14 Dec 2009 07:05:26 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22884 happy anniversary ♥♥ happy anniversary ♥♥

]]> By: bhong http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22882 bhong Mon, 14 Dec 2009 06:29:10 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22882 BazSuet :-) Happy anniv... cheers to the next 5 years... BazSuet :-) Happy anniv… cheers to the next 5 years…

]]> By: Carmen http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22880 Carmen Mon, 14 Dec 2009 04:35:47 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22880 Awwwww (: I think this would be my all time favourite post of yours. I honestly teared reading your post. Congratulations to you and him, and I wish you guys the best in the future. Awwwww (: I think this would be my all time favourite post of yours. I honestly teared reading your post. Congratulations to you and him, and I wish you guys the best in the future.

]]> By: Cher Wee http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22879 Cher Wee Mon, 14 Dec 2009 04:23:17 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22879 To Baz & Suet, Happy 5th Anniversary. To Baz & Suet,

Happy 5th Anniversary.

]]> By: Ee Von http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22878 Ee Von Mon, 14 Dec 2009 04:20:07 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22878 happy happy 5 years! we all should make a 'ldr survivors' club' hahahaah wtf happy happy 5 years! we all should make a ‘ldr survivors’ club’ hahahaah wtf

]]> By: aillemaco http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22876 aillemaco Mon, 14 Dec 2009 03:12:50 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22876 Congratulations Suet Li. 5 years is really an achievement considering the responsibilities especially since you're still studying and all that. not to mention its an LDR thing you'd going at. I'm very much comforted in the honesty you portrayed in this post and am glad that you meninded me that real life is never a fairy tale. Nothing comes easy, but the efforts are always worth it in the end. All the best Bazsuet. :) Congratulations Suet Li. 5 years is really an achievement considering the responsibilities especially since you’re still studying and all that. not to mention its an LDR thing you’d going at. I’m very much comforted in the honesty you portrayed in this post and am glad that you meninded me that real life is never a fairy tale. Nothing comes easy, but the efforts are always worth it in the end. All the best Bazsuet. :)

]]> By: Lucy http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22875 Lucy Mon, 14 Dec 2009 02:51:44 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22875 I'm glad you two are staying strong! I had the same experience like you! I used to think that getting married and waiting for your loved one to be home from work is pure happiness. Then I found a job that really enjoy working, and don't mind working overtime for. Sure, the first few months was rough because he claimed i worked too much and partied too much but after that our relationship just got stronger! I've never been more happy, great job, and a great love life. My life is perfect right here. =) I’m glad you two are staying strong! I had the same experience like you! I used to think that getting married and waiting for your loved one to be home from work is pure happiness. Then I found a job that really enjoy working, and don’t mind working overtime for. Sure, the first few months was rough because he claimed i worked too much and partied too much but after that our relationship just got stronger! I’ve never been more happy, great job, and a great love life. My life is perfect right here. =)

]]> By: jean http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22874 jean Mon, 14 Dec 2009 02:39:53 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22874 aaww suet, this is so sweet. i am a silent reader and got to know your blog from audrey's blog but hardly leave any message (can count with the fingers in your left hand). Just suddenly feel it's kinda weird feeling (even though reading your blog for a short time) but it makes me feel like seeing you growing and experiencing different things at different stages of your life.. Thanks so much for sharing.All the best for your exams (is it over?)and for my exams too :P (not yet over >< ) aaww suet, this is so sweet.
i am a silent reader and got to know your blog from audrey’s blog but hardly leave any message (can count with the fingers in your left hand).
Just suddenly feel it’s kinda weird feeling (even though reading your blog for a short time) but it makes me feel like seeing you growing and experiencing different things at different stages of your life..

Thanks so much for sharing.All the best for your exams (is it over?)and for my exams too :P (not yet over >< )

]]> By: colleen http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22872 colleen Mon, 14 Dec 2009 02:02:38 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22872 happy anniversary!! woaw, it's like the sunrise after a midnight furious thunder storm O_O welcome to the new day jeng jeng jeng! best wishes! <3 happy anniversary!!
woaw, it’s like the sunrise after a midnight furious thunder storm O_O welcome to the new day jeng jeng jeng!
best wishes! <3

]]> By: Jason (C.J) http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22871 Jason (C.J) Mon, 14 Dec 2009 01:44:46 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22871 Happy Anniversary ! Now i only realize i have been following ur blog for 5 years ++ dy.. Time really flies.. Anyway, wish u and baz have a great future ahead! Cheers and Take Care! Jason@C.J Happy Anniversary !
Now i only realize i have been following ur blog for 5 years ++ dy..
Time really flies..
Anyway, wish u and baz have a great future ahead!
Cheers and Take Care!

Jason@C.J

]]> By: zoe-t http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22870 zoe-t Mon, 14 Dec 2009 01:43:20 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22870 All the best :) All the best :)

]]> By: Sha http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22869 Sha Mon, 14 Dec 2009 01:32:19 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22869 hi Suet i've been reading ur blog for almost a year and this time i can't resist leaving a message to u anymore first, Happy Anniversary to you and Barry ♥ your blog is always an motivation and inspiration for me =) and Im really glad my bf told me of ur blog(1 day he gave me a link of u post about LDR with Barry, because that time i was uncertain about stepping into a relationship). b4 tat He broke up with his LDR gf back in Malaysia, and im kind of unbelieved how can a 2year relationship can end this fast (tat's another story which i should not talk about here). LDR is hard and it really needs 2 ppl to strive hard to keep it going (although u often said its Barry always pull u back, I knw if you don't want it it can just end that way *and im glad that u still not give it up*) Even though my bf previous LDR fail it doesn't mean this time will rite. Your blog tat time really encourage me not to be afraid of the relationship and i'm glad that I said yes to my bf. Next month is gonna be our 1st year anni and I really appreciate it. I really LOVE your blog Suet, ur my first english blog I check daily (reading english is kind of a torment for me but I enjoy reading ur blog! Sabrina hi Suet
i’ve been reading ur blog for almost a year
and this time i can’t resist leaving a message to u anymore
first, Happy Anniversary to you and Barry ♥
your blog is always an motivation and inspiration for me =)
and Im really glad my bf told me of ur blog(1 day he gave me a link of u post about LDR with Barry, because that time i was uncertain about stepping into a relationship). b4 tat He broke up with his LDR gf back in Malaysia, and im kind of unbelieved how can a 2year relationship can end this fast (tat’s another story which i should not talk about here). LDR is hard and it really needs 2 ppl to strive hard to keep it going (although u often said its Barry always pull u back, I knw if you don’t want it it can just end that way *and im glad that u still not give it up*)
Even though my bf previous LDR fail it doesn’t mean this time will rite. Your blog tat time really encourage me not to be afraid of the relationship and i’m glad that I said yes to my bf. Next month is gonna be our 1st year anni and I really appreciate it.
I really LOVE your blog Suet, ur my first english blog I check daily (reading english is kind of a torment for me but I enjoy reading ur blog!
Sabrina

]]> By: Hayley http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22867 Hayley Mon, 14 Dec 2009 00:26:30 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22867 I <3 this post! you've written so well about your feelings and relationship! i understand how you feel, there were times when i felt the same too, felt like giving up.. but i kept asking myself, is it worth it if we just break up like that? i mean, 6 years is a long way afterall... hopefully everything will be fine for you both, BazSuet. I <3 this post! you’ve written so well about your feelings and relationship!
i understand how you feel, there were times when i felt the same too, felt like giving up.. but i kept asking myself, is it worth it if we just break up like that? i mean, 6 years is a long way afterall…
hopefully everything will be fine for you both, BazSuet.

]]> By: amber http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22866 amber Mon, 14 Dec 2009 00:18:06 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22866 @Suet: 'cos I don't believe in marriage nor everlasting love at all. In a joking way, my friends and I commented that we'll die young at our peak, without ageing problems and stuff. Nah, not gonna kill myself, I'm way too chicken. Thanks for replying. U really took the time to reply everyone. @Suet: ‘cos I don’t believe in marriage nor everlasting love at all. In a joking way, my friends and I commented that we’ll die young at our peak, without ageing problems and stuff. Nah, not gonna kill myself, I’m way too chicken.

Thanks for replying. U really took the time to reply everyone.

]]> By: SK http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22865 SK Mon, 14 Dec 2009 00:07:18 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22865 Best wishes to both of you... Glad to see that you had managed to pause, stop, think, turn back. That's the path of relationship. Nothing will be smooth. But in the end of the day, it will enable you to realise the important person in your life, and make (both of) you to treasure each other even more. I was once, like you. Our difference is, you had turned back, I didn't. And I had carried the remorse and regret, for the past 8 years... Best wishes to both of you…

Glad to see that you had managed to pause, stop, think, turn back.

That’s the path of relationship.
Nothing will be smooth.

But in the end of the day, it will enable you to realise the important person in your life, and make (both of) you to treasure each other even more.

I was once, like you.

Our difference is, you had turned back, I didn’t.

And I had carried the remorse and regret, for the past 8 years…

]]> By: Dia http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22864 Dia Sun, 13 Dec 2009 23:59:48 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22864 so touching le...I am glad you din give up on him...this is something u can look back and laugh at when u guys are already grandpa and grandma...Bazsuet, all the way to 6th, 7th and nth anniversary! so touching le…I am glad you din give up on him…this is something u can look back and laugh at when u guys are already grandpa and grandma…Bazsuet, all the way to 6th, 7th and nth anniversary!

]]> By: cherry http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22856 cherry Sun, 13 Dec 2009 20:52:02 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22856 came across your blog. love your entries! :) u and barry so sweet. happy 5th! followed u on twitter alr btw. came across your blog. love your entries! :)
u and barry so sweet. happy 5th!
followed u on twitter alr btw.

]]> By: liz http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22852 liz Sun, 13 Dec 2009 19:32:15 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22852 ahh congratz to u 2! it takes a lot of sacrifices and hardships to maintain a good relationship. i totally agree with u love is not a fairy tale. cheers to u and barry coz u both have made it this far and hope u 2 will have more anniversaries to come! =] ahh congratz to u 2! it takes a lot of sacrifices and hardships to maintain a good relationship. i totally agree with u love is not a fairy tale. cheers to u and barry coz u both have made it this far and hope u 2 will have more anniversaries to come! =]

]]> By: emi http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22850 emi Sun, 13 Dec 2009 19:01:49 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22850 congrats to bazsuet for hitting the 5 yrs mark! i'm really happy for u girl, that u 'seen the light' w/o a heartbreak. instead it strengthens u and ur r/s. i think many ppl come to this realization after break ups n all the sad shite. so u r a lucky girl who has it all *hugs gd luck for ur exams congrats to bazsuet for hitting the 5 yrs mark!
i’m really happy for u girl, that u ’seen the light’ w/o a heartbreak. instead it strengthens u and ur r/s. i think many ppl come to this realization after break ups n all the sad shite. so u r a lucky girl who has it all *hugs gd luck for ur exams

]]> By: JayC :D http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22847 JayC :D Sun, 13 Dec 2009 18:26:09 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22847 aww soo sweet :') :) happy 5th anniversary u guys. wish u guys the best in your future. i hope mine last as long and as good as u guys ^_^ u and barry are an inspiration aww soo sweet :’) :) happy 5th anniversary u guys. wish u guys the best in your future. i hope mine last as long and as good as u guys ^_^ u and barry are an inspiration

]]> By: sweatlee http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22844 sweatlee Sun, 13 Dec 2009 17:07:16 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22844 pinky, good luck to you too =) amber, what!! u dont wanna get married at all?? i'm sure you'll find someone you want to spend your whole life with though! otherwise won't it be lonely =( i'm so sad you said you want to die alone T___T DON'T DIE EARLY WHY OMG I FEEL SO SAD NOW!!! what you mean you and your friends plan to do that?? are u gonna kill yourself?? omg omg!! answer me now!1 wtf pinkberry, im sorry it made u tear T_T good luck too =) yumii, thanks! heh i hope so too! steph, thanks!! aww thanks for commenting =) ak, thanks!! aud, to seeing him again lor lily, yeah it's true..sadly. and thanks =) zwei, thanks! ldr sucks! shirley, thanks! =) jas, aww im so sorry to hear that! i hope things will be okay =( all the best.. jingjing, thanks! haha! ap, aww! thanks =D legend sounds nicer heh leeyee, thanks! =) jy, haha u read everything yays! aww thanks really ar *shy amy, hahah yeah i wrote too much >.< good luck =) clem, yalor longer than alot of things..wtf eva, good luck to you too eva =) eve, it's very hard but good luck! sigh i should really form a club lor then we can talk about our feelings wtf liz, so emo hor! thanks for the luck =) i need it wtf. heh he definitely is! raychelle, im sorry to hear that =( thanks =) eunice, haha yeah i am very lucky! pattirmina, sigh ldr really is a bitch! i hate it so much =( estherr, no problem, it was my pleasure writing to a great audience =) i wish u all the best too! win, i LOVE MY READERS!!!! muah muah! miumiu, thanks for the luck, we really need it heh! chefmel, thanks =) are u really a chef?? janet, 10 yrs wow that's quite an achievement!! i wish u all the best =) nurisya, i'm glad it is too! let's see what the future holds for us =) thanks for commenting =) nicky tcs, im sure it will one day! good luck and thanks =) mymy, haha maybe! real tough love =) 1.5 yrs before i finish mine but we may not even be together cause i might go grad school/work elsewhere. sucks! sue, aww remember to clean yourself up! later people slip wtf thanks =) sherlenn, thanks =D kel, dont cry!! T_T thanks =)) hbk, HAHA u damn funny!! ~!~! wtf vvens, me too =( not your bf la, mine wtf makeupgeek, haha i meet new people here ma. it's actually damn hard, even with the strong will! i hate it every single waking moment. actually sleeping moment too. i hate it!!! yt, thanks! mell, yeah it is =) thanks! gwen, im so happy to share this part of my life with such amazing people :) thanks for loving me eventhough you don't know me personally *big wet eyes. makes me feel so loved! kai, heh he is right! wtf sulynn, thanks! im happy i can share this post with such nice readers :) what!!! nooo LDR is soooo hard seriously i keep wanting to give up! good luck to you too =) pinky, good luck to you too =)

amber, what!! u dont wanna get married at all?? i’m sure you’ll find someone you want to spend your whole life with though! otherwise won’t it be lonely =( i’m so sad you said you want to die alone T___T DON’T DIE EARLY WHY OMG I FEEL SO SAD NOW!!! what you mean you and your friends plan to do that?? are u gonna kill yourself?? omg omg!! answer me now!1 wtf

pinkberry, im sorry it made u tear T_T good luck too =)

yumii, thanks! heh i hope so too!

steph, thanks!! aww thanks for commenting =)

ak, thanks!!

aud, to seeing him again lor

lily, yeah it’s true..sadly. and thanks =)

zwei, thanks! ldr sucks!

shirley, thanks! =)

jas, aww im so sorry to hear that! i hope things will be okay =( all the best..

jingjing, thanks! haha!

ap, aww! thanks =D legend sounds nicer heh

leeyee, thanks! =)

jy, haha u read everything yays! aww thanks really ar *shy

amy, hahah yeah i wrote too much >.< good luck =)

clem, yalor longer than alot of things..wtf

eva, good luck to you too eva =)

eve, it’s very hard but good luck! sigh i should really form a club lor then we can talk about our feelings wtf

liz, so emo hor! thanks for the luck =) i need it wtf. heh he definitely is!

raychelle, im sorry to hear that =( thanks =)

eunice, haha yeah i am very lucky!

pattirmina, sigh ldr really is a bitch! i hate it so much =(

estherr, no problem, it was my pleasure writing to a great audience =) i wish u all the best too!

win, i LOVE MY READERS!!!! muah muah!

miumiu, thanks for the luck, we really need it heh!

chefmel, thanks =) are u really a chef??

janet, 10 yrs wow that’s quite an achievement!! i wish u all the best =)

nurisya, i’m glad it is too! let’s see what the future holds for us =) thanks for commenting =)

nicky tcs, im sure it will one day! good luck and thanks =)

mymy, haha maybe! real tough love =) 1.5 yrs before i finish mine but we may not even be together cause i might go grad school/work elsewhere. sucks!

sue, aww remember to clean yourself up! later people slip wtf thanks =)

sherlenn, thanks =D

kel, dont cry!! T_T thanks =))

hbk, HAHA u damn funny!! ~!~! wtf

vvens, me too =( not your bf la, mine wtf

makeupgeek, haha i meet new people here ma. it’s actually damn hard, even with the strong will! i hate it every single waking moment. actually sleeping moment too. i hate it!!!

yt, thanks!

mell, yeah it is =) thanks!

gwen, im so happy to share this part of my life with such amazing people :) thanks for loving me eventhough you don’t know me personally *big wet eyes. makes me feel so loved!

kai, heh he is right! wtf

sulynn, thanks! im happy i can share this post with such nice readers :) what!!! nooo LDR is soooo hard seriously i keep wanting to give up! good luck to you too =)

]]> By: sulynn http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22843 sulynn Sun, 13 Dec 2009 17:01:09 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22843 congrats! :) and thanks for sharing this post! all these while i've been thinking you and barry pull the LDR thing so well, i was blaming myself thinking that somethings wrong with me for not making mine as easy. here's hoping you guys pull through many more years! congrats! :)
and thanks for sharing this post! all these while i’ve been thinking you and barry pull the LDR thing so well, i was blaming myself thinking that somethings wrong with me for not making mine as easy. here’s hoping you guys pull through many more years!

]]> By: Kai http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22842 Kai Sun, 13 Dec 2009 16:36:12 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22842 Barry is one hell of a lucky guy! =) Barry is one hell of a lucky guy! =)

]]> By: gwen http://sweatlee.com/2009/12/12/five-years-down-the-road/#comment-22841 gwen Sun, 13 Dec 2009 16:07:21 +0000 http://sweatlee.com/?p=1480#comment-22841 thanks for sharing this part of your life with us suet. i'm sorry if us readers have given you so much expectations that your relationship will def have a happily ever after. i love Bazsuet because reading related posts ALWAYS gives me nice warm fuzzy feelings (plus a tinge of jealousy sometimes :D ). But i love Suet just as much! thanks for sharing this part of your life with us suet. i’m sorry if us readers have given you so much expectations that your relationship will def have a happily ever after.

i love Bazsuet because reading related posts ALWAYS gives me nice warm fuzzy feelings (plus a tinge of jealousy sometimes :D ). But i love Suet just as much!

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