January 17th, 2011
Blowin’ in the wind
Alright, so my self-proclaimed hiatus and all that “I’m not going to blog anymore/I don’t want to reveal myself to the public anymore” was short-lived wtf. Now that I’m back in Malaysia and have been more happening and cheerful lately, I keep coming back to my blog and thinking of new things to talk about.
Truth is, I have a million things to talk about! I’ve spent many afternoons on my own now, mulling about the house alone indecently dressed in torn oversized tee and shorts, sprawling flat on the cold marble floor to cool off, lying on the couch like a sloth reading a chick lit, catching up on personal blogs I’ve stopped reading for a long time, listening to old songs from CDs I never knew I had, sitting by the window watching kids scream playfully in the pool, rummaging the fridge and every cabinet in the kitchen for food and then suddenly remembering that I’ve gained so much weight since I’ve been back so I keep putting back the food while giving them a “sorry I can’t eat you today” look, helping my mother with household chores which sounds really filial of me but in actual fact said chores only include hanging up the clothes to dry, taking them back in and folding them (also proud to admit that I’ve mastered the important skill of taking more than 10 hangers of clothes at one time with the stick thingy, which is worth boasting about because it takes great wrist flexibility and upper arm strength to be able to maneuver the stick with such precision) (but sad to admit that I cannot fold clothes for a living, mom always comes back from work to see such ugly folded clothes and have to refold them again ;_;) – okay, lost my train of thought from too much digression, totally don’t remember what I wanted to talk about.
Anyway, that’s not the point at all. The point is, I’ve become a much happier person lately. I don’t know if it’s the fact that I’m in my comfort zone now in this familiar territory, or the fact that the weather has been extremely kind to me, or the fact that I’m fatter (from the happiness? happiness from food?), or the fact that I actually have friends again, or..the fact that I’m in love with someone amazing.
So this is something I’ve been hiding from the public for numerous reasons ranging from the potential harsh judgment I might get for moving on from my previous breakup so easily to dating someone who seems unconventional for me and thus breaking whatever societal norms/rules there are out there. It’s been six months so if you want to judge me for moving on and for being happy, then screw you. All I know is I’ve been trying to make amends for the pain and hurt I’ve put the people who love me through, and whatever that happened should only concern the people who were involved.
I guess in some ways, I’ve come to terms with having people judge me anyway so why not clear things up myself rather than being speculated mindlessly about. Yes, I’ve moved on and have started dating again. Yes, I’m a cruel person for moving on so quickly when I should be mourning for an indefinite amount of time and be all miserable and sad. Yes, I actually allowed myself to find my own happiness, hence increasing my Cruella Devil-o-meter.
In the pursuit of my own seemingly selfish happiness, I may have been branded many ugly names but so be it. At the end of the day, those names will be mere whispers and will be blown away by the wind, the people who throw ugly glances at me will be mere faceless shadows, but I will still remain happy.
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Hey Suet, I’ve actually been a silent reader for a very long time, and now that you’re back blogging and happy, I’m happy for you too (:
happy for u!
not judging!
LIKE! =))
just gotta move on with life somehow, some time, doesnt matter when
happy for you!
Happy to see u movin on, im still stuck with the post breakup stage. Its like keep coming back to me. Maybe cuz of PMS. Oh well..
Anyway still happy for u
blog more!
i know how that feels. people will get over it. most people dont care anyway
to the reply above me, most people don’t care? or care? i would think most people care?
i want to know more about the happy love story bit. this entry has a good start and a nice ending picture, but.
some girls get over one guy by dating another, not for the purpose of getting over the previous guy, but just cause loving someone new changes a perspective somehow. so no judgement! would love to know more! more! more! haha but in time
i hope?
Not judging! Happy for you too!
I think that the only people who get to decide whether it’s too soon or not after the breakup is yourself and your new person
I went out with my boyfriend not too long after he got out of a pretty long term relationship. Of course I did have my reservations because I had absolutely no intention of being anything close to a rebound or to be seen as one.
But then I realised that yes people will make judgments, unconscious or not, positive or not. But really, they’re not the ones in the situation. They’re not the ones who’ve met that one person who is sooo amazing that it would be silly to let that person go because of what the ‘societal norm’ is. So good on you for being able to move on. Good on you for being to find someone special enough to help you move forward from that memorable but past relationship.
i’m happy for you for being happy.. =D
everyone deserves to be happy..
congratulations tat u r in love again!
argh…just ignore all those bad words~!
IT’S UR LIFE!!!!!!
Who cares what others think no? If we’re happy that is all tht matters, friends will be happy for you while those who talk are not worthy of being your friend…it’s good you’re happy…cheers
why all positive comment wan…..
u bastard!
lol, i’m just dying of curiosity as to what this amazing person is like *KAYPOH alert seems like your approach to this is working, no hate comments so far from the folks who like to tell u how to live your life coz we all think we know better than everyone else….u know the feeling u get when u watch soap operas and the characters are about to make a huge mistake marry the wrong girl dump cinderella etc because of a misunderstanding and u just want to jump into the tv and slap them to their senses and fling them towards the rightful love for a makeup kiss *climax lol…… but hey peeps when we’re not the person in question we haven’t enough information to make judgement so chill your nips! hold your horses! peace be unto u so the blog isnt so full of landmine areas
why are you not online!!!
so happy for you!!!
Hey don’t worry about when pple think! I am really glad you have moved on! Hope you’ll blog about your new love in time to come…: ]
i meant – what pple think
When was the break-up? Totally missed it (insensitive). What do I have to do to get a date with Suet? Why beat around the bush right?
As long as you are happy, nobody have any rights to say anything about your life. ^^ I knew that you are dating again!!! I’m just glad that you are happy right now. have lotsa fun!!!!
Awww am so happy to know that you’re happy! I like cheerful Suet. Don’t worry, no judgement is made. And I’m looking forward to seeing more cheerful entries of yours.
i will admit that at first i was a bit disappointed that you found another person because secretly, i hope you’d get together with barry again. (ok not a secret anymore since im writing it out now -_-) but if you’re a much happier person now then i am happy for you too! ^__^ come on, we want the good old happy go lucky sweatlee! =D
That said, you MUST blog about this someone new guy!!
it’s not wrong to want to move on. it’s true. it’s your life. if you wanna move on, you do that, girl! don’t care about what others think of you. people shouldn’t go around judging another person. we all have our reasons for the things that we do and if they don’t understand that so be it. =)
ohai itz me!! i’ve been stalking you on twitter so i kinda knew abt that amazing guy before you confessed here. AND WHY IS HIS SURNAME LIEW? bahaha.. i thought he’s your cousin or siapa2 ;p
glad to have u back and great to see you happy now =D
this societal norm thing sucks. totally understand how you felt cos i was in the exact same situation
but you know what suet, fts. be happy! that’s all that matters. judgemental people can all go fuck themselves. at the end of the day, it is you who live your life.
hope to hear about this new guy soon
Yay! Happy happy joy joy happy joy!
Mehhh, let them judge! It is always easier to condemn others compared to painful introspection for the sake of bettering one’s own life.
I’m genuinely happy for your happiness. Lazing around the house in torn oversized t-shirts and shorts are one of the simplest pleasures that life has to offer
I am happy for you!
Dear Suet, as mentioned all above, i am happy too for you are happy. it’s sad to retreat from my own desire just because the judgement people will put me into. it’s no wrong but not much people really understand the whole thing in detail! so yep, great to see a happy suet.
Happy for you!
And agreed to lots of the people above, it’s your life, so don’t care too much of what other people say, because society will always judge us no matter what we do.
hi.. i’ve always been a silent reader, but now i feel compelled to leave a message. i am in the exact same situation as u now, and i’ve never been more glad that i decided to give myself and my new guy a chance. truth is, everyone will have something to say anyhow, regardless of whether u move on or not. we do not have an obligation to make everyone aside from ourselves happy. so go on, be happy and embrace love once again! all the best
It doesnt’t matter who you date or if you’re jumping too fast from a relationship to another. Doesn’t matter if the guy you’re dating now is different from the norm – older, different race …etc
What matters is you’re happy and no one have the right to choose who you should be with. Whatever it is, just be strong.
thanks everyone T___T
WALL OF TEXT
WALL OF TEXT WALL OF TEXT
life is unfair
btw having trouble with breakup? i notice most of my buddies who broke up frequent to gym . maybe you can try to build some muscle and 6 pack on your free time
no negative comment also.. lol…
everyone loves suet ok!
be happy~
yup…all happy comments!
i’m just so happy that you are back blogging k…do keep us updated! we love you!
moving on with happiness is very important! hugs!^^
oohhh* knowing look*
Don’t be silly! Life’s too short to be spent mourning failed relationships. Take the time to get over it, but after that, time to get on with things and if it means you have found another love, then so be it.
Hie Suet. I met the love of my life one month after I got out of a terrible relationship with a cheating boyfriend. Many have passed nasty judgments and said that he is a rebound but I’d like to think that all things happen for a reason. Our r/s grows stronger everyday and we know we have a lifetime ahead of us. Sometimes love happens that way
Really glad to hear that you’re happy again now!
it happens when it happens
i try to remember anyone who tries to pass any type of judgment are probably people who do the selfsame things they are so high and mighty about anyway /thumbs nose
can’t wait for a picture!
It’s good that you’re happy once again.. very important.
Oh well, we all make mistakes and hopefully learn from then. Besides, you can never please everyone.
Most importantly, you know what you want and you know what you’re doing and getting yourself into.
All the best in this love journey with your Mr. Unconventional. =) Try not to let what nasty people say affect u.. hehe.. easier said than done but guess what?
Seems like u have an awesome bunch of friends to support you no matter what so.. to hell with the nasty people! =p
i am really happy for u.
i hope to fall in love again too but i am still on the searching path. btw, i love that picture. it’s awesome! 
I’ve been thru the ‘U’re such a bad person’ period, and seriously people can just be so lifeless to talk about you.. Anyway, there’s Nothing wrong with moving on, and no one can judge you from that, It’s ur life not theirs. I’m glad that u’ve found ur love life again=)
ahhh…i’m glad that you’re back to blogging again!!! was feeling emo when u said that there’s a possibility that u’ll stop blogging. phew! all your readers (including me) are really happy for u! =)
why is this a pursuit of “seemingly selfish happiness”? It isn’t selfish at all. Who benefits if you stay in mourning over a past relationship, really? Nah, there may be those who pass judgements on you over some fabricated and completely insensible societal norm, but the harshest judgement comes from your ownself, perhaps as a reaction against the initial convictions of others. I think this ‘societal norm’ thing has too tight a hold on you. It’s alright, Suet, you’ve a right to happiness, too, and so far you don’t sound the least bit selfish.
But then again, you sound blissfully happy, already so I guess the content of this comment is obsolete….but good on you, anyway!
Happy to read this post!!!!
On a completely unrelated note, I never got a chance to meetup w/ you before getting my a$$ out of How Sadly ( just before the snow storms though, so I was lucky!) Never thought I’d say this but as I stare desperately at my piles of cardigans and sweaters and coats (that I barely touch anymore since I’m so SoCal now) I kinda somewhat miss the true winter of the East Coast teehee.
Hope your last semester sails well!
btw wow you actually write a whole of text everytime u need to justify something you did
that is sick yo. just do whatever you want, by posting this wall of text its just show that you are insecure and afraid of being judged, playing the victim to make it look like youre innocent , thats manipulative yo . convincing that all those justifications are real is even more psychotic
and no doing what you think will make you happy is not selfish but what you wrote is selfish
may god smite heavenly judgement upon you , infidel
tell us more abot ur new relationship ! : p
i totally understand what you mean by people’s judgements.
i ended a 3 year old relationship that had turned ugly with a person i once loved and i moved on quite quickly. people judged me, like moving on is a bad thing to do. even some very close friends. it hurt for a bit but now 3 months into the relationship, people dont bother giving me the ‘look’ any more and i couldnt be bothered about what people has to say about me too. the most important thing is that im a happy person now.
glad that you found happiness suet!!
heart your blog. =))
happy for you, suet! very curious to knw about ur new love! do blog abt him soon hehe
bla bla move on move on
we all know the truth
u girls will eventually dump your life long partner when your so called mr right or white knight appears before you
pfftt pathetic !!
erm, ok. i think i got your point the first time
WE ARE ALL REFRESHES AND CHALLENGE BY YOUR UNIQUE POINT OF VIEW
when I type like that, its all screaming in your head lol
alamak..i mean refreshed.
now here comes the awkward silence where you screwed up your comeback by typo..damn I hate this lol
and challenged
more awkward silence..
I totally understand what you are trying to do
i do that in real life too,
whenever i have a disagreement or conflict with another person, i would speak loudly in shouting manner when conveying my points
and it really works, it leaves your opponents speechless in the debate hehe
i don’t do that, shouting i mean, im just writing it in caps lock. I clearly did point out that when someone writes in caps lock, the voice go screaming in your head.
now, u mention “girls”. what makes u think guys won’t do the same??
no offense, but guys can be as fairytale-dreamy as girls too.i am not talking about being equal and all.just that your statement spells unfair accusation.
and u are the pathetic one for pushing this to girls only.so u are the one who should move on.
We guys can practice polygomy, so it is unnecessary for us to leave our spouse for another women .
besides its always good to have extra girl around in case your girl is out of commission for a week
It’s good to hear that you have moved on and are now actually happy again. Also, it is very brave of you to keep posting despite knowing that you will be judged, and that is really cool. Finally, i wish you good luck in you future undertakings.
hey suet! i’m so happy for you! thanks for putting your innermost thoughts out there because for every hater out there, there’s probably some other girl nodding her head and saying ‘aye, i’m in the same shoes, i get where you’re coming from.’ and that would be me. thanks for helping us get through things a little easier
dont know the whole story abt yr love life, but for commenting’s sake i feel like im more on barry’s side.
Wow, that’s what I was searching for, what a data! present here at this blog, thanks admin of this site.