Religion is the highest form of politics. It’s a great excuse used in governing people and getting them to do things in a certain way. I really think you are doing the right thing and I sincerely hope that you can retain your beliefs and principles in such circumstances. Keep going Cikgu Suet! You are indeed making a difference in your students’ lives. And I hope the girl above chose option 2 *fingers crossed

P/S: I wasn’t in the mailing list but guess what, I managed to crack the code lol

I can only imagine what that is like to be such a strict place. I am always a little scared to say that I am an atheist to people, only a few people know.. It would break some of their hearts, make them think i am evil, or whatever it is people think. Its hard to say an opinion and there really isn’t perfect way but to have respect, compassion and wisdom.. You are doing great work in your childrens lives, sometimes all they need to know is that someone understands, and hopefully they will find their way.. the more they educate themselves and here different opinions …

I personally am a Christian and I believe that no matter how bad and terrible I am, God still loves me. I just have to go back to Him. So you did a right thing. Banning her and telling her how sinful she is is not going to help her. It’ll only break her and ruin her. She needs to know that she is loved and she is cared for. Otherwise, her life will go down the drain from now on.

What has been done, has been done. She cannot change the past but she can still work for her future. I think it’s important to keep in touch with her because not many teachers or even adults can handle things like this like you did. They may hurt her and ruin her even more. You may not be her teacher anymore but you can be her friend. I really think she needs support. I’m not saying that you must and trying to be all pushy to tell you what to do. That’s just how I see it. She is still young and she deserves better.

Sometimes, we do things not because there’s a higher being asking us to, but we do things because we know there’s “someone” out there, looking out for us, loving us and caring for us unconditionally and will accept us no matter how broken and damaged we are. =)

I think there is still lack of proper sexual education in our society. Some of them might have realized and regretted of what they have done in the future and it’s really saddening when some of them made mistakes and there is like the end for them. I think what you did is extremely right. You might have just changed her life.Keep up the good work!:)

damn, i’ve tried various different password before i got the email wtf, manatau, i feel cheated.. =.=”

and you are doing the right thing! i also don’t know how to comment the religion thing, they are raised like that, the thought of being alim is already instilled in their systems ever since forever. I am very glad that you approached the girl and giving her another option in her life, if not those so call spokeperson for the God (don’t know why they think they know God more than everyone else like that) gonna stressed the poor girl until she lost all her self-esteem lo.
u know har, i can’t even mention babi in front of one of my Malay friend before! not scolding her leh, and then she proceed to tell me, they got a lot of pantang one.
like none-muslim, cannot mention the word Allah,
*roll eyes”
ya Allah, when they drop one pen also none stop calling the God’s name already wat.. Zzz..

I felt bad for this girl especially when she kept on repeating that she is a damaged good and all. I mean.. in religion wise, sex before marriage is wrong but her parents are just literally poisoning her mind about her worthiness because she somewhat committed an offence.

If you ask me, as long as this girl repented her wrongdoing.. I dont see why she should be forced to be married to this definitely will have no future unemployed boyfriend of hers.. she is only 14 and she has a very bright future ahead of her.I hope she chose option 2, I really do.

I find it terribly wrong of how some parents claimed that they are only doing all these for their children’s goodwill.. sigh..

Maybe our education ministry should consider having sex education in Sivik instead of all the crap nonsenses syllabus they are teaching now..

I have so much to say but I curi-curi comment this from workplace. Hahaha! But anyway, I hope the girl will turn out well and perhaps become a cool Cikgu like you one day

In dealing with the girl, I would like to say kudos to you Suet.
Have a read at the link below:

http://www.focus.org/blog/posts/im-that-girl-that-got-pregnant.html

But not the phrase, ‘ You can still be a good person without having a religion.’

The notion of ‘good’ came about because of religion. If the world suddenly became atheist, very soon – perhaps after just one generation, maybe two – the concept of ‘good’ will have become distorted. Kinda like what it’s doing today in the secular world…. where the good is now being called bad and the bad is being called good.

Good is relative to it’s end. To what end are we supposed to be good? If there is no life after death to what end is answered ” the pursuit of happiness” That runs into problems when you define happiness. It’s relative. I don’t want the kind of society that made Hitler happy.

A question that atheists hit a wall answering in regards to good ” To what end?”